When Child Support Services FAILS

WE WANT JUSTICE FOR CHILDREN!!!
WE WANT JUSTICE FOR CHILDREN!!!
BESIDE MYSELF!

Readers, I am outraged, and I want to hear from YOU single parents of minors who are also outraged at the lack of enforcement by County Child Support Services!

Here’s my story. I was married, had a baby, and left that marriage when our daughter was only a year old. The marriage involved domestic violence, so with answered prayers, God provided my way out. I got a job six months before we left and I was able to rent an apartment and pay child care on a $12.00 p/hour salary. My ex and I agreed to a meager $200 p/mo. in child support, via stipulation.

I waited two years before filing a child support case with the Department of Child Support Services in my county. When it was all said and done, my ex said he could only “afford” to pay $350 p/mo. This would include current support, half her child care and $45 p/mo. towards arrears. I agreed. Due to missed payments and a pile-up of arrears, he was put on probation in June 2004 through June 2005. Since then, he’s now up $17,000 + in arrears.

What does DCSS do? I requested a contempt hearing in 2008, and after two “continuations”, a hearing was supposedly held in November. No Order After Hearing ~ no action was taken!!

Due to the recession, I became unemployed between December 2008 and May 2010, living on the maximum weekly benefit amount of only $475.00 p/week. I couldn’t afford health insurance, so my parents jumped in to keep me covered. My daughter was covered by Healthy Families ~ that’s how little income I was making. I cashed in my retirement account to pay off debts so we could make it without losing our home. I have been responsible to never be late on bills, including my mortgage.

I saw a pattern develop in child support payments: he would pay one month; skip two; pay one; skip two. What did DCSS say? “He has to be delinquent for three payments in a row before we enforce”???? OK ~ he’s allowed to make four of twelve payments a year. Nice. DCSS will simply put his missed payments on his “tab”. What about us?! Let’s test DCSS and the court system a little more….In August of 2009 child support payments stopped completely! It’s been over a year now! He’s got it all figured out. He’s only dealing with a barking ‘dog’ that has no teeth!! That’s what DCSS and the Courts amount to. And if he’s figured this out, how many more Obligors laugh at the threat of child support collections?

Are you outraged? I keep hearing from other mothers that had child support cases open in other counties where their ex’es got put in jail for missing a payment, or for unpaid arrears. Why don’t they at least have him on probation?! Ha, ha ~ I asked this question of DCSS and it turns out he was ON probation when he was doing the one-on, two-off payments! What a joke!

He has no JOB to garnish. He has no BANK ACCOUNT to lien. Why? He’s allowed to be in his own “cash-based” business. THAT’S WHY THERE’S DCSS and COURT ORDERED AMOUNTS, right? They could force him to seek work. Instead, he claims he’s filing for disability….poor guy. So on we go with the “wait to enforce” syndrome. Where’s the accountability? Where’s the enforcement? So what ~ they suspended his driver’s license. He still drove. They put a stop on his passport. He still went overseas several times! Come on ~ what’s wrong with this picture?

I FINALLY had HOPE when DCSS officially charged him with contempt after a year’s missed payments. He was officially arraigned, pleaded ‘not guilty’ (haha) and was assigned a public defender. His hearing was held…………only to be continued AGAIN for three more months! What?! Turns out they are giving him time to get his ‘disability’, for which he’s now filed. If he does manage to manipulate the disability system, the courts can no longer force him to seek work. He knows what he’s doing. Wicked is as wicked does. He’s never filed disability before now ~ can’t they ‘see’ the writing on the wall?

I finally consulted an attorney. Guess what ~ I can have an attorney file a notice of delinquency. This will put a 6% p/mo. interest charge on his arrears owed and will increase that amount by up to 78% within a year. It’s not like he’ll ever pay it. If such a motion can’t accomplish anything, other than a greater tab; if the County isn’t responsible to do what they say they’re going to do; if it’s the State’s responsibility or the Fed’s responsibility, we need to find out. We need to get to the bottom of this issue for children all over America.

I even emailed my Congressman and Governor, and the News. Obviously, they have far more important things to concern themselves with. I’m just ONE MOM out here in this Country, in this County. How many countess others are being “victimized” by exes and the judicial system that is supposed to be intolerant of ‘silver-tongued devils’?!!!

Please leave your story ~ your comments ~ this is an attempt to get some attention to this matter via the WEB. Let’s MAKE SOME NOISE, Mothers (and Fathers, too) out there!!! Our children are to be taken care of! I HAVE NO EXCUSE not to take care of her!! Why is he given an excuse(s)? He doesn’t have custody of her, so I take ALL the responsibility, including every penney of the financial end, too? DO SOMETHING, GOVERNMENT; DO SOMETHING!!!

Why do EBT card holders get to eat better than me?

As my wife and I struggle to put enough money away to buy a home and plan for having a child, I’m left wondering why others don’t have to be responsible for their own lives.

I was at Sam’s Club the other day, and was in line behind two full shopping carts full of racks of ribs, tenderloins, pork chops, soda, a ton of junk food, ribeyes, and a tons of other stuff totaling out to over $800. As she paid with her EBT card, I couldn’t help but wonder what it feels like to be able to buy as much top dollar food as you want with redistributed money of others, or if that would even cross the mind.

Does our current system give people any reason to stop taking advantage, stop having kids they can’t pay for, to be thankful for what they are given, or encourage them to get off the system to support their own existence? Like Romney I’m talking about the leaches, not the vets, retirees, or handicapped, so keep that in mind.

Save the BS, I don’t feel like arguing about how heartless I am or people who are critical of our failed systems are. I don’t need to hear sad stories, I’ve experienced my own. I just want to know what you think about our welfare system, and its contribution to our entitlement society and the debt.

My Dog Got Hit By A Car. What do I do?

A Traumatic Experience When Your Dog Gets Hit By A Car

My dog Karma got hit by a car last night, and it was one of the most traumatic things I’ve ever experienced. Karma, our border collie pup, slipped out last night when my sons were visiting with their dad in the front yard – and no one noticed that anything was wrong until Karma came slinking back to the house – bruised and banged up.

My oldest sons first words were “Karma’s face is gone!”, which put me into a total panic. Not understanding what had just happened, I looked at her in horror and thought that part of her face was missing. Although there was blood everywhere and she was scraped up, her face WAS NOT missing, but her face did look terrible. I actually thought she had gotten bitten by another animal, because the abrasions on her face were actual holes, and they looked like bite marks.

Not only was her face mangled but she had abrasions on her feet and she was walking funny- and panting hard. We laid her down in the kitchen where my husband tried to calm her down and get a better look at her injuries. We all thought that she had gotten bitten by something- because the wounds looks like bite marks.

After a speedy trip to the emergency vet at 2 in the morning, the vet took one look at her and said it looked like she had been hit by a car. They took X-Rays and said she had 2 broken ribs and had sustained a hit to her liver. Apparently when she was hit by the car she must have tumbled and that’s what caused her head injuries and the abrasions on her paws.

Karma spent the night at the vet in intensive care- she was in shock (that’s why she was panting hard) and she had to have IV’s, antibiotics, and careful observation throughout the night.

Dreaming of Snakes: The Meaning of Snakes in a Dream

Snakes tend to be seen as phallic and are sexual symbols or symbols of temptation for many. They often represent something negative, fearful, untrustworthy, or mysterious. Depending upon the context of the dream and the dreamer’s culture, snakes may represent someone that is trying to harm the dreamer in an underhanded, sly, and sneaky manner.

As a positive symbol, snakes represent transformation, knowledge, and wisdom. The presence of a snake in a dream may indicate self-renewal and positive changes for the dreamer.

The meaning of a snake to the dreamer is important to explore. Different cultures assign both negative and positive characteristics to snakes. From a scientific point of view, snakes are observed to adapt and shed their skin, are skilled predators, and may be poisonous. These traits could be viewed as both negative and positive. The experience the dreamer has with snakes will probably reveal itself through the dream.

If the dreamer is someone who has some knowledge of snakes, the type of snake should be taken into account. A poisonous snake, a harmless one, or a snake that constricts its prey all have different meanings. A constricting snake, such as a boa constrictor, may indicate to the dreamer that they are being suffocated, restricted, or repressed in their waking life.
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Psychodynamic Dream Interpretation of Snakes

Dreams can assist the dreamer in exploring and understanding the state of his/her unconscious, discovering what is needed for greater personal development, and gaining insight into their psyche. Snakes may symbolize hidden fears or and worries that are currently threatening the dreamer. Since snakes are mysterious, the presence of a snake in a dream may be alerting the dreamer to something in his/her waking life that has not fully surfaced yet.

We often use dreams to process the experiences we have during the day. We may dream of important details we may have missed. The details andcontext of the dream are always important. For example, dreaming of a snake with a head at each end could symbolize the feeling of being pulled in two different directions, the risk of burn out, how the dreamer is not getting anywhere due to lack of commitment or direction, or feelings of conflict possibly relating to sexuality to sexual/romantic relationships. A two-headed snake, in contrast, may symbolize a cooperative relationship. Finally, dreaming of many snakes may mean the dreamer is anxious, overwhelmed, and possibly that a lot of little things are “getting to” the dreamer.

Dreams may not mean what they appear to mean at first glance. Characters and objects within a dream, although separate from the dreamer, may actually illustrate aspects of self to the dreamer. The qualities assigned to each object may reflect aspects of self the dreamer is either unaware of, beginning to develop, recently accepted, or has repressed. A snake may symbolize a part of self that is either unknown or is believed to be undesirable by the dreamer.
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The Eastern Perspective on Snake Dreams: The Esoteric Body

The snake is a symbol of Kundalini, a Hindu concept of pure energy located within the base of spine. Kundalini is described as a dormant potential force in all people. Yoga is the practice that is supposed to awaken the Kundalini energy. Yoga evokes the progress of Kundalini through the different chakras. Each chakra leads to a different level of awakening and mystical experience.

In dreams, the snake could represent wisdom, spiritual awakening, and inner power.

The snake is a very positive symbol within the Eastern cultures, practices, and religion. Individuals familiar with these viewpoints may discover their dream relates to these concepts more than others.
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Christian Dream Interpretation of Snakes

The Christian perspective views the snake as a symbol of temptation. The snake relates to the serpent in Genesis that tempts Eve to eat the forbidden fruit from the tree of knowledge. In this story, the snake is a sneaky and sly creature that has a negative influence on others. Thus, the snake may relate to a malicious enemy, betrayal, or deception. Christians may find their dreams of snakes relate to trials and tests they are experiencing in their waking life or their relationship with God. An individual from a Christian perspective dreaming of snakes may want to explore further what this biblical story means to them and how the lessons and hardships in Genesis relate to his/her current experiences.
Alternative Perspectives on Snake Dreams: Psychics or Mediums

For some people, dreaming of a snake–especially the skin of a snake–is a sign of protection from illness.

Others may view snake dreams as predictive, showing the dreamer a potential danger or a deceitful person they will soon be encountering.